Q: Hi Amy, I was dating a guy for 1 month and he was so into me-always texting me, wanting to see me, etc. I had just gotten out of a bad long-term relationship and was still feeling the emotions of going through a break-up. I got into a car accident & this guy wanted to pick me up & drive me to work, cooked dinner for me, etc. The nite he cooked me dinner I freaked out a little & said I wanted to slow things down because I just got out of a bad relationship. Then all of a sudden 1 night he canceled a date & said he was sick. I didn't believe him but said ok. On facebook the next morning I asked if he was acting weird & he said no & I said I didn't want any bs because I was with someone who lied to me for years. He agreed honesty was important and no bs. He stopped texting me unless he responded to my texts or called me when I called him or asked him to. I left him a message & asked if he wanted to hang out the wkend and didn't reply. I didn't hear from him for 2 days. I called & left a message asking if we were still seeing each other or friends-no response. I texted him a few days later and asked how he was-he said he was busy didn't know about hanging out w/me for the wkend,didn't want 2 be mean. I texted I liked him & would still like to see him-what did he think? He replied-I was pretty, smart, etc. but he had feelings 4 someone else but didn't know what was up w/her but didn't want 2 b unfair 2 me because I deserved 100% & he couldnt give that 2 me right now. I dont get it? - Maggie

Amy: Dear Maggie, I’m not sure what happened. Maybe your freak out at dinner really affected him, or maybe things were starting to change for him anyway. The bottom line is that you have to realize that you were honest with him and there isn’t anything you could or should have done differently. This just didn’t work out and it’s not necessarily due to anything you did or didn’t do.

It’s natural to want to figure things out but it can also drive you crazy. Do whatever you can to come to terms with the uncertainty and just accept the reality of the situation. Again, the best way I can think of to go about that is to understand that sometimes people just change their minds or feelings just change, not due to the fault of either party. It sounds like this is just one of those times. Luckily you didn’t have too much invested…I recommend you give up trying to figure it out and look forward to what’s next.

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