Q: Hey Amy, I met a very beautiful girl. We talked first online then we had dinner. Then I texted her that I like her so that I want to spend more time with her. She said that would be good but the problem is I am the one who is always asking about what she is doing and if she wants to go out and kind of stuff. I feel like if I do not call her she will not even call me or text me? What could the reason? Does she likes me or not? I feel like she is just trying to be nice and kind and can not say I do not want to go out with you or she is just spending time with me because she has nothing better to do. Please help me to understand the situation!

Amy: Dear Anonymous, I can see how this situation would become annoying. For the first couple weeks or so she might be just letting you court her. But after that, I would agree with you that things should be feeling more mutual.

There is one sure way to test your theory that she is just filling time with you—don’t contact her for a while and see if she contacts you. However, I wouldn’t necessarily recommend that because it feels kind of game play-y to me.

My suggestion would be to tell her you’ve noticed that you are the one initiating all of your dates and conversations and that it makes you wonder if she is really interested in spending time with you. This would be a good opening to start some dialogue about how she feels without starting a more serious conversation that it’s probably is way too early for. In general, I think you’re right to question this. If things continue to be one-sided, she probably feels differently than you do.

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